I am an extremely selfish person. Upon meeting anyone for the first time, I always warn them of this. I explain that I have goals for myself and although I enjoy helping people, at the end of the day I am the only one who has the ability to change my future. I always adhere by extremely ethical morals but I always explain that when I set a goal, I make sure I achieve it.
For years, my romantic relationships failed and the common answer was that I was too independent and too career driven. I was told my determinedness scared off any potential suitors, I was told my aggression towards my dreams was an unattractive quality to have when it came to relationships and 'finding a man'. I felt terrible and self conscious but no matter how hard I tried, I could not bring myself to stray from my dreams.
It took a little while, but I now realize that being a driven woman is something I should be extremely proud of. I have gone after things I had wanted and become successful because of it. My determinedness rubs some people the wrong way, but to be honest I am so focused on my life that those opinions no longer matter. I would do anything to achieve my dreams and if people cannot accept that it's their problem, not mine. Times are different and although some people still view my determination as a flaw, most people now see it as a positive attribute. This is for all the girls out there who have ever felt self conscious or guilty about going after their dreams and putting themselves first.
For years, my romantic relationships failed and the common answer was that I was too independent and too career driven. I was told my determinedness scared off any potential suitors, I was told my aggression towards my dreams was an unattractive quality to have when it came to relationships and 'finding a man'. I felt terrible and self conscious but no matter how hard I tried, I could not bring myself to stray from my dreams.
It took a little while, but I now realize that being a driven woman is something I should be extremely proud of. I have gone after things I had wanted and become successful because of it. My determinedness rubs some people the wrong way, but to be honest I am so focused on my life that those opinions no longer matter. I would do anything to achieve my dreams and if people cannot accept that it's their problem, not mine. Times are different and although some people still view my determination as a flaw, most people now see it as a positive attribute. This is for all the girls out there who have ever felt self conscious or guilty about going after their dreams and putting themselves first.
WHY YOU SHOULDN'T DATE A GIRL WHO IS DRIVEN
You know the kind.
Frayed hair, bags under the eyes, a delirious smile across her face as she finishes the touches on her latest project at 4 AM. That girl. The one that listens to none other than her beating heart and her initial gut instinct.
She sees a vision and all of the sudden everything else fades away from it, including you.
Don’t date a girl who is driven.
If you think mind games will work on a girl like that, you’re wrong. She will leave you the second you try to pull her down without even a second glance back in your direction. She is over mind games, boys and everything in between. She knows that there is more to life than a few dates and drunken hook ups. She doesn’t care about status or money because she knows that the only time those things matter are when they are your own.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for she will consistently blow your mind with numerous facts about things you didn’t even know existed. She will talk about them until she tires out the subject and discovers something new to learn about. She will more than likely unintentionally make you feel inferior at one point or another. Don’t try to tell her that something is not important because to her, everything has a reason for existing.
She does not understand the concept of “I want to, but I can’t”. If she cares about you, she will do everything in her power to help you succeed. She doesn’t understand that not everyone has the same amount of energy and passion that she does. She has started from the ground and worked her way to the top, she understands that people who victimize themselves are the only ones who can’t accomplish what they want.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for she is independent and successful. Our society has taught us that women are supposed to be submissive to men, but she questions and then goes against this belief. She provides for herself what she desires and does not understand why other people feel they cannot do the same. She is intimidating to a lot of men for this very reason.
She probably takes a long time to warm up and trust you. She has been hurt numerous times before by boys who were too scared to handle her energy. She is busy most of the time and understands that sometimes work is productive when you are on your own. She is used to being by herself so the thought of letting someone in, just to watch them leave, seems counterproductive. She understands her self worth and values her time much more than that. You have to prove to her that you want this.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for if you give her a reason, she will never come running back to you. She understands that she does not need a significant other to feel like a whole person. She has a life and whether it includes you or not, that does not stop her from achieving her goals.
You’ll know her when you meet her. It will be on a rare night out at the bar with some of her friends. She will grab your attention off the bat with a large smile and some witty banter. She will fascinate you with stories of things she has done, various facts she has learned over the years, and a fantastic story or two. She will draw you in with her confidence and the way her eyes light up when she talks. You will feel a desire to be fully immersed in her life, her ways, her mentality, all of it. But the second you do, run away. Because if you date a girl who is driven,
You will never be good enough for her.
You know the kind.
Frayed hair, bags under the eyes, a delirious smile across her face as she finishes the touches on her latest project at 4 AM. That girl. The one that listens to none other than her beating heart and her initial gut instinct.
She sees a vision and all of the sudden everything else fades away from it, including you.
Don’t date a girl who is driven.
If you think mind games will work on a girl like that, you’re wrong. She will leave you the second you try to pull her down without even a second glance back in your direction. She is over mind games, boys and everything in between. She knows that there is more to life than a few dates and drunken hook ups. She doesn’t care about status or money because she knows that the only time those things matter are when they are your own.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for she will consistently blow your mind with numerous facts about things you didn’t even know existed. She will talk about them until she tires out the subject and discovers something new to learn about. She will more than likely unintentionally make you feel inferior at one point or another. Don’t try to tell her that something is not important because to her, everything has a reason for existing.
She does not understand the concept of “I want to, but I can’t”. If she cares about you, she will do everything in her power to help you succeed. She doesn’t understand that not everyone has the same amount of energy and passion that she does. She has started from the ground and worked her way to the top, she understands that people who victimize themselves are the only ones who can’t accomplish what they want.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for she is independent and successful. Our society has taught us that women are supposed to be submissive to men, but she questions and then goes against this belief. She provides for herself what she desires and does not understand why other people feel they cannot do the same. She is intimidating to a lot of men for this very reason.
She probably takes a long time to warm up and trust you. She has been hurt numerous times before by boys who were too scared to handle her energy. She is busy most of the time and understands that sometimes work is productive when you are on your own. She is used to being by herself so the thought of letting someone in, just to watch them leave, seems counterproductive. She understands her self worth and values her time much more than that. You have to prove to her that you want this.
Don’t date a girl who is driven for if you give her a reason, she will never come running back to you. She understands that she does not need a significant other to feel like a whole person. She has a life and whether it includes you or not, that does not stop her from achieving her goals.
You’ll know her when you meet her. It will be on a rare night out at the bar with some of her friends. She will grab your attention off the bat with a large smile and some witty banter. She will fascinate you with stories of things she has done, various facts she has learned over the years, and a fantastic story or two. She will draw you in with her confidence and the way her eyes light up when she talks. You will feel a desire to be fully immersed in her life, her ways, her mentality, all of it. But the second you do, run away. Because if you date a girl who is driven,
You will never be good enough for her.
